I have the best family and friends that a person could possibly ask for.  They have been amazing sound boards for my heartache and woes of recent times.  Taking things “one day at a time” or “putting one foot in front of the other” is advice I have been told a lot these past few months. These bits of advice and wisdom are wonderful but are sometimes not as easy as they may sound.  Many times the most simple advice is often the hardest to follow.

As I am sure you all know, getting over someone you once truly cared about is hard to do no matter what method you employ.  It has been very difficult  the past few weeks for me to come to grips with the fact that not only is SHE not coming back, but SHE has also already moved on.  In situations like this, we often ask ourselves how can someone who repeatedly vowed that you were her one true love and that the two of you would be together for the rest of your lives just throw you away like a parking ticket?  Also the question comes to mind if SHE really loved me at all..

I am trying to come to grips with the fact the answer might not be as simple as yes or no.  As much as I would like to believe that we live in a world were everything is either right or wrong, good or evil, black or white, I am fully aware that there are SO MANY grey areas in our lives that cannot be tackled with simple yes or no answers.  I believe our pop culture says a lot about us as a society.  We all love the moral stands that heroes like Superman or Captain America make because they have moral guidelines that they stand by and never waiver from.  But we as a society are much bigger fans or characters such as Batman and Iron Man because they live in and fully accept the in-between areas of life, the grey areas that make up a big part of our lives.

Now I know what you’re thinking.  What is this nerd/geek rambling on about and how does a superhero’s morals apply to losing someone or distinguish between true and false love?  My point is that maybe the answer is not as simple as a yes or no answer.  Maybe there are extenuating circumstances that can prevent someone from spending the next 60 good years of their life with someone they truly love (I say 60 because being in my 30’s already, I believe it might be a stretch thinking I have much more than 60 years left on the Earth). Maybe there were/are situations that SHE was/is going through that I have no idea about. And I am also coming to grips that there is absolutely nothing I can do about the issues SHE is having behind the scenes.  Now it is up to me to take the Solomon-like wisdom of my family and friends and take things “one day at a time” and “put one foot in front of the other” until I get to where I need to be.

Thanks again,

A. Failure